Good questions.

hanker is an invite-only dating app. It's where successful men and the kind of women who keep their company meet — without the noise, bots, and time-wasters you get everywhere else.

Think of it as a smaller, more curated room. Everyone is verified. Everyone is serious about showing up as themselves.

Three things. First, you can't just sign up — you apply, and we review. Second, the pool is small and curated, so you're not swiping for hours. Third, members tend to be a bit further along in life — more established, clearer about what they want.

No — hanker is a dating app, not a transactional service. That said, our members tend to be generous people who enjoy sharing the lives they've built, and they meet partners who appreciate that energy. What members choose to share with each other is between them.

Founders, executives, investors, a few creatives. Typically 35–65. They've built something real and are looking for real connection — not another dating-app conversation that fizzles out.

Smart, ambitious women who know what they want. Students, creatives, models, early-career professionals — typically 21–35. Poised, well-travelled, and selective about who they spend time with.

Yes. Every member is ID-verified and personally reviewed. No catfishing, no fake photos, no anonymous accounts. What you see is what's real.

The application takes under a minute. We review and get back to you within a few days — often the same week.

We keep the circle intentionally small, so not everyone gets in on their first try. If it's not the right moment, we'll say so — and you're always welcome to reapply later.

If you know a current member, absolutely. Referred applications move faster. Mention their name in your application.

No. Your profile is only visible to other members — never indexed by Google, never public, never searchable from outside the app. You show up for people you match with, and no one else.

Only what we need to run the app: your profile, your matches, and your messages. We don't sell your data. We don't use it for ads. If you leave, you can ask us to delete it and we will.

Yes — block lists, incognito mode, and the ability to hide from specific networks (your company, your city, etc.) are all built in.

Yes. Women use the app for free.

Real connection. A partner who matches their energy. Some members are looking for something serious, others are more open-ended — everyone is clear on the app about what they want, so there's no guessing.

Never. You match when you want, message when you want, meet when you want. You set the pace — always.

Membership for men runs on an annual subscription. Exact pricing is shared once your invite is approved — it varies a little by city and tier.

It depends on you, but members typically see a curated selection of a few new faces a week — not hundreds. The app is designed so you're never drowning in options.

Anytime. One tap in settings. Pick it back up whenever.

500+ cities worldwide, with more coming. Members travel a lot, and the app works wherever they are.

Yes — both. Once you're approved, you'll get a link to download. The web app works too.

Write to us via our contact page and we'll get back to you in a couple of days.